We tend to think that most conflict comes from a complaining spouse, a controlling boss, or a road-raging motorist, but we rarely recognize the truth of the matter: we are often our most harmful competitors. Here are several ways to prevent self defeating behavior.
#1: Let go of winning.
It’s exciting to win, but you don’t have to win all the time. The appetite for achievement can frequently lead a person to keep chugging along a track of nonsense, wastefulness, and recklessness. On the other hand, seldom it’s good to accept defeat and win a lesson instead.
#2: Quit seeking to satisfy everyone.
You cannot make everyone satisfied all of the time. Racing around and attempting to get other people to be happy is a significant problem of self-defeating practice. Whether you’re doing it at work or in your relationships, striving to make everyone happy all the time can cost your peace of mind and also your health.
#3: Receive and embrace imperfection.
Can you envision great artisans like Michelangelo remaining to run and work on the Sistine Chapel because it wasn’t exactly how he wanted it? Nothing would ever get done! Being imperfect is part of being human, and most of the time, you’re the only one who will realize your mistakes anyhow. If you seek perfection, you will never find fulfillment.
#4: Eliminate damaging practices.
These days, most people have bad habits related to technology, like obsessively monitoring our email or Facebook or Twitter accounts. Take a count on how you spend your time. Make a comprehensive log of the minutes and hours, and see how much time you might be wasting with various pursuits.
#5: Defeat fear.
Fear is something that keeps most people behind from living a greater purpose.Fear doesn’t certainly have to be an immediate sense of terror. It might be hidden as laziness or avoidance. Like that saying goes, you can’t fly if you don’t jump, and you can’t jump if you’re afraid.
#6: Stop being a lone wolf.
Everybody needs help sometimes, even sole wolves. Please don’t be embarrassed to ask for guidance or help when you need it because a strict, accepting sense of independence could be doing you more harm than good. Whether in business or personal life, gain friends, receive help, and ask for help when needed.
#7: Ditch the blame.
People can evolve and grow, so you don’t have to let your history hold you back. Allow yourself to appreciate life, even if your past is checkered. The past does not equal the future. Most of us are raised with the reasoning that we have to work our buts off for someone else and only enjoy the weekend, but we can break loose from these worldview barriers.